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About this web site's author.

My name is Paul E. Coughlin. I was born this time around, for we, each one of us, have many times around, in the summer of 1948 on a small island known as the UK or GB.

One of the unfortunate things about my life is that I have had to keep moving. Not really my first choice and, as you can guess, always a bit of a nuisance to say the least.

And, after all, it's nice to know that you belong somewhere. Isn't it? I don't think I do though; belong anywhere that is.

Anyway, no sooner do I get settled in than for one reason, not really any fault of mine, I end up making plans to move again. Failing to do so when the signals were clear has actually made me ill!

From time to time I actually spend my time travelling. I enjoy this but it's good to have a base somewhere - though that's even less important now with the internet - and so I get to the point where I want to settle again, somewhere new, somewhere where nobody knows me.

In fact, looking back over my life I see that it is a very significant feature that I uproot and move and disconnect my contacts; a kind of mini-death.

And guess what, sorry to say this but, looking back, there are not really many people in my memory (there are a few though) who I want to see again. I have very little inclination to go back to some of those places to see anyone.

Of course, to the group mind set, this is because I probably have a problem. Well, actually, no, it isn't a problem at all - I adapted to it quite well in fact. I think it's just sad that the number of people that I would actually like to see again is such a small number out of all those I have got to know along the way. And I think it is sad that so many people don't know how to behave or don't care to behave properly. That is actually the problem and I have encountered it a lot.

One of the greatest things about being this kind of person is that in 'not belonging' you, I, develop ways of thinking about life and humans that is outside the mould or box. Of course it is being like that in the first place that is really what causes one to fall into the role of 'not belonging' too. Which comes first? My personality type is first then the interdependent reaction of people 'around me' then my reaction to them. That's the order of play.

So when you look at the content of my web site bear this in mind, the cost was high. If you don't think so and you belong to some kind of people-group (and don't dismiss this too quickly) then you do not understand what I am writing about at all.

That's the very polite version. Another way of putting it is this. I have spent most of my life, really since I started school age five, trying to get people OUT of my life! I am not, NOT, kidding you either. There ARE people who have been in my life who are like past loves if you like and my memories are fond and good but apart from these there are very few that I have much respect or liking for or any good kind of memory of. I worked hard to get them out of my life, I continue to do so, and I will probably spend the rest of my life continuing to do so.

That's hard work and a high price. Hard work and a cost that should have been applied elsewhere. I could have worked wonders. But recognition and welcome is rare. More often it is unconscious recognition and a fear that results. And from that ensues all the cancerous stuff which is the word I use to try and encapsulate the mindset or mind stuff that I spend my life 'cleaning off me'.

When you read my articles here then this may help you to understand 'where I am coming from' and why I don't hold the conventional view but instead hold, usually, an 'unacceptable' one instead. If you dismiss my ideas do so because they don't make any sense and because the ideas you already have make more sense. If you can't do that then maybe, just maybe, what I am saying deserves to be taken very seriously.

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If no earlier date is shown above then this page began life on 02.04.2007. It was most recently updated, improved, tarted-up, sexed-up, modified, polished, or just imperceptably re-edited, due, most likely, to compulsive and unrestrained perfectionism, influenced quite possibly by a minor degree of pedantic extremism, on 01.07.2007.